Tuesday, May 17, 2011

what makes a mother?

Since Mother's Day last week, I have been thinking a lot about the title "Mother." What really defines someone as a mother? A mother is something more than the result of a biological function.  A mother is a woman who does more and goes farther than a simple physiological process can explain.  There are so many different situations that give a woman this classification. Some women deliver their children to become mothers, and some women become mothers through adoption. Some women are not able to carry their children to term, but are still mothers to those babies who have passed on. Some women are raising other womens children because they cannot take care of them themselves. A mother does not always raise her own child. She may know she can’t provide for it and knows she’s not ready to be a good mother.  She may realize that the best thing for this child is to be raised by a mother who can provide for it and who is ready to raise this new baby. 
I became a mother to Cash the minute he was placed into my arms. Y became a mother to him the minute I placed him into her arms. Each of us care for him the way any mother would. We found out we were going to be mothers at different times, yet the love we felt for him was the same. I know Y would do anything for Cash, as I would. To me, a mother is someone who puts the good of their child above their own good.  They put their own needs aside so that their child can have what he needs.  

"He is mine in a way that will never be hers. Yet, He is hers in a way that will never be mine. Together, we are Motherhood."

"So now you see what makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart
it's the LOVE you had so much of
Right from the very start."


  1. I love this. The last quote really puts things into perspective. I completely agree with you on Motherhood. I think there are SO many unsung mothers. Like my Mom who is raising my nephew... or the teacher who cares enough to actually be concerned in a child's life. Motherhood is defined by SO many different things. What a blessing to be able to define so many of those things as women :) - who needs boys??? Jk. ish. lol.

  2. Thanks for this post. I just found your blog through LDS Adoption Connection. My husband and I are trying to adopt and so I really enjoy reading the perspectives of birth parents, so thank you for sharing!